Pastor Hill: Willing to be what you want

Matthew 19:6, “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

Matthew 19 is speaking of marriage and identifying that it is God who makes the two, male and female, one flesh. It is for this reason that God instructs us that man is not to destroy this union. We do not begin this journey with the intention of dissolving the union somewhere along the way. We would all like a magic formula that would help us have the best marriage possible. Well, there is no magic formula but there is an answer to all our marriage desires. That answer is God, the Creator of marriage.

Speaking the Truth in Love by Pastor Tommy Hill

Speaking the Truth in Love
by Pastor Tommy Hill

There is no one who can help us in our marriage better than God who gave us this wonderful institution. If we are to have a successful marriage and grow together, what can we do to make this all possible? I’d like to share a thought to help us achieve a great marriage. That thought is, “we must be willing to be what we desire in our mates.” If I desire kindness, I must be kind. If I desire patience, I must demonstrate a patient spirit. We could list many other attributes but I believe we get the picture. May we always remember that?

Marriage is not a commitment to one another; it is a covenant between two people who become one. However, this covenant requires the greatest of commitments, Ephesians 5:21, “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” A covenant is a mutual agreement between two parties or persons. Adam said in Genesis 2:24, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

Commitment to our covenant is a vital ingredient for a strong marriage relationship. There is a lot missing in our society where the marriage covenant is concerned. We must be committed to the decision we have made. Failure is not an option; we are in the relationship together. May we declare that we will never quit, never change course that we will not give up. If we give our marriage to God, and trust Him in faith, we can have the most wonderful journey through many years together. Are we willing to trust God with our marriage? If we are, we must be willing to be what we want. What we want from our husband or what we want from our wife we must be willing to be, if our marriage is to be successful.

Commitment to our marriage is vital because it proves love, Ephesians 5:25 tells us, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;” This commitment overlooks faults and failures, is patient and kind, and stays the course no matter the circumstances. If that is what we are looking for in our mate then we must offer the same in return. Great marriages do not start out great; they arrive through growth and much hard work. Great marriages are forged like fine steel through the fires of testing. When you have a great marriage, it is no accident. It is the product of determination that will not quit. It is love that never gives up or falters.

Commitment to our marriage is vital because we have no Plan B. We are planning to stay until the end. We determine to persevere because we have God on our side and we believe that God can lift us up from any ashes of disappointment or injury. Marriage is not a “try and see if it will work” proposition. It requires work, time, and patience. It requires us depending upon God, for it was God who designed marriage. Mark 10:9, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

May I challenge every couple to pray one for another. Husbands pray for your wives, and wives, pray for your husbands, together. Ask God to help you be the husband/wife you should be. The book of James tells us that the effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. How much do you want for your marriage?

Pastor Tommy Hill is the pastor of First Free Will Baptist Church in Hamlet. He is a Richmond County native. He can be reached at His column will appear each Friday in The Pee Dee Post.

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